The 4B Club: No Men, No Sense

When I hear about how so many American women today are shaving their heads and joining the ‘4B’ brigade—boycotting men in the bedroom to get back at them for election results—I find myself needing a little reminder that women are, in fact, intelligent, powerful, and intriguing beings, because it’s oh-so-easy to forget these days. Sure, even ‘woke’ progressive women have every right to do what they please with their bodies, and no doubt, the constitutional right to spout total twaddle. But can we not call it feminism, please? Can we at least agree on that?

It’s a touch ironic, really. The original feminist movement was about correcting a long-standing, deeply unfair system to ensure women were granted the same basic rights as men. Among those rights was arguably the most vital: the right to vote. If you’re set on punishing people for their choices at the ballot box, aren’t you essentially denying them that same freedom to choose, undermining a century of progress? It’s as though we’re pushing feminism back a hundred years, to when voting was an abusable privilege, not, as Britannica so aptly puts it, ‘an essential element of democracy in any country, and one of its primary measures.’ Change my mind.

Once the right to vote was secured, feminist efforts focused on upending a patriarchal worldview that reduced women to little more than pretty things. And they were right to do so! Though a woman’s body is a marvel of beauty and allure, an intelligent, free-thinking woman is far more than the sum of her physical parts. Mentally, your average woman is stronger than your average man, though let’s not deny that women are, by and large, the more emotional creatures. That’s just an observable fact—easily verified, should anyone doubt it.

So, if we return to that original idea—that though different, men and women are, and should be, equals—then any sensible person, regardless of what’s in their trousers or on their ID, ought to be a feminist. Only the most insecure of men need legal superiority over women to feel validated. But alas, today’s so-called feminists seem to be clinging to little more than denial and emotional instability.

If we’re still baffled by feminists declaring they aren’t just sexual objects while scrawling bizarre, often daft slogans across their bare chests, we may twist our heads clean off. But who am I to tell them it’s utter nonsense? After all, as I’ve said, a woman’s body is mostly pleasing to the eye, and the odd scribbled slogan hardly changes that.

But here’s the rub: women whose main stance is withholding sex from men as a form of protest are essentially saying they have nothing else to offer men. I won’t argue with them on that point, because as a classic feminist, I absolutely respect a woman’s right to do as she pleases with her own body. Yet if they’re so quick to give up something as delightful, healthy, and enjoyable as sex, then perhaps their men weren’t exactly setting the sheets on fire. Wouldn’t it be simpler to find a bloke who knows his way around a bed and isn’t selfish between the sheets?

If women are so quick to swear off men—no sex (Korean: bisekseu), no kids (bichulsan), no dating (biyeonae), and no marriage (bihon)—even though it’s one of life’s great pleasures, especially with someone who actually cares about you, then it’s like we’re back in the Stone Age. Honestly, it just goes to show that some women still haven’t a clue what they really want and won’t rest until they’ve worked it out. As for me, a partner who treats sex as a chore or doesn’t actually enjoy it? Hard pass.

In this context, I must say, I’m a far greater, die-hard (classic) feminist than the shaved-head lasses with 4B stamped across their chests.